It’s safe to say that the majority of people masturbate, yet nobody teaches you how to do it. To be honest, there is no right or wrong way to do it. After all, masturbation is about exploring your body and discovering what brings you sexual pleasure. Having a couple of ways to get yourself off is a skill everyone should have because solo play isn’t just a fun way to spend some ‘me-time,’ but it’s also highly beneficial for you (more on that in a sec).
It is also good for those with sexual partners because you can experiment on your own, learning what feels good for you and then relaying that insight to your partner. This will lead to better sex, intense orgasms, and deeper bonding with your partner. If you don’t need more reasons to enjoy your alone time, let’s talk about the ways you can enhance your sexual pleasure. For masturbation newbies, this can be quite informative as well as for those with a little more experience who are looking to reach new heights of pleasure. But, first…
What are the Health Benefits of Masturbation?
The fact that it feels phenomenal is reason enough to explore self-pleasure practices, but the real benefits will have you reaching for your favorite pleasure oil in no time! They are:
It lowers the stress levels: Masturbation relieves anxiety and stress, which is great for those who are tense (who isn’t!);
It’s great for vaginal health: Masturbation increases blood flow to our genitals, which is very important since blood flow keeps the vagina healthy;
It subdues cramps: Advil? Motrin? Umm no. Masturbation? Hmm yes! When we orgasm, our bodies release natural pain relievers, dopamine, and serotonin;
It’s the safest sex out there: Before you say ‘duh!’, let me just point out that feeling safe is imperative to experiencing pleasure and having an orgasm. If you don’t feel safe in your own body sexually it can be challenging to experience pleasure with a lover. For this matter, solo sex is surely a safer option.
Before You Start, Set the Scene
You take a bath, change the sheets, light the candles, and set up your favorite sexy playlist when you’re about to get it on with your partner, so why not do the same for yourself? Start by creating a comfortable, relaxing space in your home, especially in your bedroom, full of privacy and without interruption. Plus, clearing up your space will clear up your mind, which will give you more room to focus on the deep sexual pleasure and not worry about your unfolded laundry or unwashed dishes.
If you’re not living alone, make sure you’ll have some privacy. Locking your door can take the worry of someone interrupting you. Oh, and put your phone away. Also, break out your favorite lingerie. Why save it for an audience if it makes you feel sexy and beautiful? For an added spark, spray your underwear and sheets with Myst, an aphrodisiac damiana essence spray, ideal for your love journey!
We all like being touched in more ways than one, and sometimes, we don’t know what that is until we feel it. When you take the time to explore on your own, either with your fingers or with your favorite toy, both your individual and partnered sex life flourishes. If you’ve been frustrated with masturbation, maybe you’ve tried the same method too many times. If you want to fully and joyfully explore your beautiful body, we recommend doing it with Nectar, a potent companion on your pleasure journey. Designed to inspire desire and passion, this damiana-infused sexual arousal oil will boost your libido while you pinch, tickle, move in circular, side-to-side, or up-and-down motions, all while supporting your vaginal health! Laced with Damiana and Rose, Nectar nourishes the labia, creating a healthy and activated vagina
Lubrication is a very important part of masturbating because it helps you comfortably stimulate your genitals. However, most of the store-bought lubes are filled with toxic ingredients you wouldn’t want on your body or in your mouth. Remember, your skin is the biggest organ in your body and whatever it absorbs goes straight to your bloodstream.
Aside from being a healthier option, essential oils have arousing aromas that play a huge role during solo (or partnered) sexy times. Our sense of smell is directly connected to the limbic system, the primitive part of our brain, linked to emotions and memories. If you’re looking for an ideal essential oil made to get your motor running, soothe your body, relax the mind, improve circulation, and invigorate your senses, then you must try our Organic Damiana Essential Oil.
Due to damiana’s adaptogenic nature, this oil reduces stress and elevates your mood, which in itself can promote feelings of sensuality and energy. Think about it like this – the more relaxed you are, the easier you’ll get ‘in the mood.’ Damiana is worldwide famous for its mood-boosting and libido-enhancing effects for both men and women. So, to use this oil specifically for self-loving situations, you can apply it as a perfume to get you going. Aside from using it as a sexy scent, you can add it to your bath salts as you soak and get ready for a date night with yourself. You can also add it to your favorite massage oil or lube as well as in a diffuser to subtly create the right atmosphere in your boudoir.
Stagnant Libido – What is That?
Let me cut to the chase – masturbation feels SO good. How could it not when the clitoris has eight thousand nerve endings, reason enough to reach for oils, toys and lubes. In fact, there are pleasure pathways in the brain that get strengthened by regular masturbation and can turn into highly-tuned pathways for pleasurable sensations in your body.
Also, don’t forget to breathe deeply through your mouth because there lies the secret to better orgasms! However, don’t let yourself get obsessed with reaching orgasm during your self-love ritual. It’s okay to want to finish, but if you focus too much on the end goal, you’ll put yourself under pressure, and you’ll forget to enjoy the pleasure of your own body.
Pleasure is the biggest reason to masturbate, something women are often uncomfortable with. But if you give yourself permission to experience it, with time and practice, you can truly bask in all of its glory. And why wouldn’t you? Your pleasure belongs to you before it ever gets to belong to anyone else. So, own your ‘me-time’ and get as much enjoyment as you possibly can because you need it, girl.